You don’t like your job any more, but you have to stay for the sake of your team.
You feel like you’d be leaving a pretty big hole if you handed in your resignation tomorrow. You’re a good person, and you don’t want to drop your team-mates in it by leaving them a person down for your latest project.
So you stick it out.
You stick it out in the name of doing the right thing by your team and your employer.
You stick it out and promise to do the right thing by you when the timing is better.
If you’re unhappy in your job but aren’t sure what’s next, then I’m not telling you to walk in and ask for your P45 tomorrow. I wrote a whole other post about alternatives to that.
But, if you’ve already made your mind up that your job isn’t right, and you’re just finding the right time to make a move, then you need to make that move now.
Staying for the sake of others is wrong. Plain wrong.
Here are four reasons why:
1 – They’ll miss you a lot less than you think
Like it or not, this is a fact. Teams and organisations recover from the loss of pivotal individuals every day. Sometimes it’s harder than others, but every time it’s easier for them that you imagine.
Life will go on and before you know it, people will wonder what you ever did. This happens whenever you leave, so choosing time based on others is pointless.
2 – They deserve someone who loves the job
If you’re working grudgingly every day, people can tell. No matter how good you are, if you loved the job, you’d be better. You’d bring more of yourself to the job, you’d be more effective.
The people paying your salary and the colleagues you work alongside deserve someone who loves this job.
And that person does exist. Even if you think this job is a weight around your neck there is someone out there who would love to do it. So let them!
3 – Some will secretly be jealous
And others not so secretly. If you have a good relationship with your team, they’ll want the best for you. If they love the job, they’ll know you don’t and will be glad for the opportunity to find a replacement who loves it too.
If they hate it too, they’ll admire your ability to make the break.
4 – It’s time for a decision based on your criteria
It’s possible you got into this job because someone else thought it was a good idea. Not making the break because you think that others will think it’s better for you to stay just perpetuates that problem.
If you want to be happy, you’ve got to do what makes you happy, not what you think might please others.
If you’re trying to please your colleagues (or anyone else for that matter) you’re guessing what they really want.
And you’re probably wrong.
So make the decision that’s best for you, and it will also be the best for your colleagues.